Parental Accountability Leads To Obedient Children
What Do You Mean Parental Accountability Leads To Obedience?
I know.. I know.. as parents we start out with the feeling that we only have to be accountable to ourselves..
our boss..
our God..
yet the truth is we have to be accountable to our children as well.
Raising a child today is totally different then when we were growing up.
Our parents could get away with not having to be accountable to us.
Back in those days most adults were accountable..
and the few that were not..
well they didn’t really stand out.
Yet if you look at the world that we live in today..
you can see that the majority is not exactly what you would want your child mimicking.
Therefore we have to take different approach in how we parent. Parental accountability is a must today.
Parental Accountability Takes Humility and Strength
As a parent you know exactly what I’m talking about.
The first time I held myself accountable in front of my daughter, I felt like I was losing my mind.
Literally, I felt like I was wrong for even letting her feel like she had this kind of “Power”.
Yet, as I begin exhibiting parental accountability and explain to her my faults and my strengths, as I begin to explain to her why I did what I did, and why I was wrong.
I noticed a look in her eyes, that I had never seen before.
I noticed her shoulders kind of stand up a little higher. I noticed a softness in her face, along with a relief. I asked her what she was thinking. Her response was:
It is good to know that you mess up sometimes too. I also love you so much and I know it is okay to mess up sometimes as long as I can talk about it by telling the truth. I want to lie sometimes because you seemed so perfect and I didn’t want to disappoint you.
Once I noticed the response and the new found transparency come out of my child.. I knew parental accountability is the way to go.
You really don’t have to believe me.
All you have to do is give it a try. See for yourself the response you get.
Deciding against Parental Accountability My Lead To Horrible Circumstances
Circumstances come with every decision.
See some circumstances are good.. and some are bad.. which do you prefer?
I prefer GOOD.. and what I have noticed is that the more parental accountability that I exhibit, the more obedient my children become.
Maybe it’s because they realize that it’s okay to mess up sometimes.
Maybe it’s because they see that unconditional love is given and received by everyone in the house.
Maybe it’s because they simply do not mess up as much because they aren’t constantly thinking about it.. (that is another post all together).
All I know is that as I humble myself.. and leave my pride outside, my children are obedient.
All you have to do is give it a try…
an HONEST try.
Leave a comment sharing your experiences.
Guys we are in a different time.
We have to raise our kids differently then the way we were raised.
We simply do not have the luxury of doing it the ways of the past.
It’s kind of like that saying about old wine skins.
Look around.. the wine they are making today.. isn’t like the wine they made 20 years ago.
Parental accountability is like new wine skins.
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