Forgiving The Kids is Easy!!
I know you are probably reading this and wondering exactly what do I mean about “forgiving the kids”.
Yet it is something that we must do.
Especially in today’s times.
See times are different then they were when we grew up..
Well at least us 70’s babies and earlier.
See I don’t know about you.. but my parents never admitted fault.
My parents were perfect, as far as knew.
And they definitely didn’t ask for forgiveness.
Yet times are very different in this world that we are raising our kids in.
We simply do not have the same luxuries that our parents had.
Why I Keep Forgiving The Kids!!
My reasons for forgiving the kids are two fold.
See first time I forgave my daughter, I was simply testing a theory.
Once I witnessed the response I was completely sold on the idea.
See the reality is that we are now raising our children in a time when we don’t quite trust the “village” like we used to.
And I found that there are many predators out there that would just love to gain the ear of my babies.
So I thought about what I liked about how my mom dealt with forgiveness, coupled with what I’ve learned through the Bible, and my healthy relationships.
What I found is that forgiving the kids is a must.
First, it builds respect between child and parent
Second, it builds up confidence in the child, and shows them exactly how amazing they are.
A Story About The Real Reason I Keep Forgiving The Kids!
See it really all started one day when I realized that my oldest daughter, Catherine was not forgiving her little sister, Chloe.
I mean they were running through the house just snapping at each other..
Well, truth be told Catherine was running around snapping at Chloe.
Now let me tell you there is a 7 year difference between my daughters.
As I was an only child when I grew up..
I have been told by many that had I had siblings growing up I would understand the dynamic of their relationship. I personally believe their relationship should start with love and respect and then the rest will work it’s way out.
So back to the story.. lol.
I went into my room and begin to pray.
“Lord, what is wrong with these kids, why aren’t they forgiving?”
Well, God answered and said.. “You’re not forgiving either!”
Wow.. now this got me.. I gave that..”What do you mean…” response.
And God clearly showed me how when Catherine had lied to me weeks before, that I had not forgiven her.
I was stuck, because God showed me the truth.
See weeks earlier, Catherine had lied about something.
And I can not stand it when I’m lied to.
And the fact was I had not forgiven her.
In fact over the past weeks up to this moment, I was constantly bringing up how she had lied. If she looked at me funny, I would say, “You are lying!”.
I immediately called Catherine into my room and proceeded to ask her for forgiveness for not forgiving her for lying.
Now notice that at this point I’m the one asking for forgiveness.
I also stated that I forgave her for lying all those weeks earlier.
She forgave me and accepted my forgiveness.
I then proceeded to ask her to forgive her sister.
She agreed and did just that.
To say the least there is peace in my house.
Forgiving The Kids Exhibits Strength
It takes a strong parent to admit fault to a child they gave birth to.. or even one that they are raising.
Yet you have to know that when you show this type of strength, that this exact type of strength is learned.
At the end of the day we are here to give our kids the best chances in this world that we live in.
I personally have found that my daughters communicate better with me knowing that I have faults.
While I show them that I am not perfect they are ready, able and willing to share their faults with me.
When they realize that forgiveness is on the table, they are more apt to tell me the thing they know will require forgiveness.
Forgiving the kids brings the family unit back to a place of success.
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Kiana says
I’ve been looking for a post like this for a long time.
Shalonda says
Awesome Kiana,
Glad you found it here.. keep smiling