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Single Moms Make Money Online From Home With 3 Ridiculous Steps

May 5, 2015 By Shalonda Leave a Comment

It amazes me every single morning when I wake up and realize I make money online from home.

It wasn’t always like this..

It was so hot outside that I could barely take it.. maybe that was because I was pregnant with my second child.. who was due in a few weeks.. I have been blessed with the ability to become very round when 9 months pregnant.

Throughout my entire pregnancy I knew that I would have to find a way to increase my income.  I was already a single mom of one child that I took care of 85% by myself… and now another child.. with a totally different father.  I knew from the moment I found out that I was pregnant that I would have to take care of this child 100% on my own. I needed a way to make money online from home.

Now some start judging at this point.. and I don’t know.. maybe that is you.. yet before you judge.. let me tell you what happened that left me in this situation.

See it was August 2006 and I was hanging out with my Big Brother.. who is actually my step brother.. yet I couldn’t tell the difference.. we were close. He’s an electrician.. every electrical issue.. is not match for him.. One day we were talking about the futures.. and then 3 days later he was in a car accident that left him brain dead.. and 4 days after that they removed him off life support.

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I’d lost my brother.. my homie.. my best friend.. and honestly I fell completely apart.

My mom would watch my oldest daughter as I barely survived each day.. I smoked a lot of weed and would drink a lot of beverages… back then tequila and vodka were my drink of choice… yet nothing could make the pain go away..

See prior to my brother getting in the car accident.. I was a faithful servant of Christ.. Very active in the church. I still remember going into my brother’s hospital room with my Bible and praying over him in tongues.. (Yes I pray in a different tongue.. I may talk more about that later).  My faith was set on him surviving.. no where in my mind could I comprehend that God would not save him.. HERE ON EARTH!

The day that they took DeWayne off of life support I had friends calling asking how he was doing.. I was confused.. they were like.. “when I talked to you last.. you said but GOD.. so I figured he was getting better.”

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I turned my back on God and went back to living a life without Him.  Which was pretty difficult considering the fact that now I knew exactly what life with Him was like. Yet I can be stubborn at times..

While I was running from my pain I met a guy.. and basically did things that make babies.. and POW!!

God gave me LIFE instead of DEATH.. because honestly the way I was living he could have given me either.

See I was broken..  I was hurt.. I was lost.. and most of all.. I had lost all FAITH.

Then I found myself with life growing inside of me.  I tell ya if you really want to see Faith spring back up in your heart.. consider the fact that a lady like me can create life inside of my body.. I know.. I know.. at that moment I made a decision.. that no matter what.. I would not let this child down..

When My Desire To Make Money Online From Home Became Possible

So now you know why I became pregnant while I was already a single mom.. so judge if you must.. yet remember until you are willing to walk in a persons shoes… you shouldn’t judge.  Either way.. I found myself in a situation where I needed a raise.  And with two kids it didn’t make since to look for the increase outside of the home.. as I would have a new born very soon.

One thing I knew was that Network Marketing was the best way to create an income and build something that would lead to true freedom at the same time.  I joined my first Network Marketing company at the age of 19.  I had made a few dollars.. yet had invested way more then I made.

I convinced myself that I simply wasn’t ‘hungry’ enough.

Today is a new day!

Failure is not an option I can play with any longer.

So I joined another Network Marketing company expecting it to be different this time.  Yet I simply forgot that I had to attend all these meetings and home parties.

Something I hated the first time I did Network Marketing.  It wasn’t as much the meetings and parties.. as much as getting people to them.  I mean I simply didn’t know that many people.. and I worked a job where I wasn’t around a lot of people either.  Because I’m a single mom.. I do not really like inviting lots of people to my house because I do not see it as safe.

It took me a year to realize that I could actually set things up so that I could make money online from home. The idea of completing make money online surveys didn’t appear to be very fruitful.  and every situation I found from make money from home for free just didn’t result in any kind of success.

I’m an entrepreneur at my core and have been all my life.  So I knew that I wasn’t looking for another job.  I wanted something that would grow FOR ME every hour I put into it.  See I wanted something I could leave my girls when I left this earth.  I couldn’t pass on a job… yet I can pass on a business that they can either grow.. or sale.

What I discovered as I ventured onto the internet was an overflow of information.. some made sense yet most of it did not.  I was learning an entirely new way to make money. I searched many ways to earn money at home. And most came back to Network Marketing.. which is also known as the Home Based Business industry.

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Make Money Online From Home With This Technique

Joining a Network Marketing company is not the last step.. it is the FIRST.  Then things begin to get really interesting.. simply because after taking that first step of joining.. not one person could tell me how to do it from home.  It was all about meetings and parties.. and honestly between you and I.. I’m a single mom with active kids.. and hanging out in hotel rooms and traveling to peoples homes to throw parties simply would not work unless I could add about another 5 hours in every day.

There is another way.. and I had to search HIGH and LOW to find it.. For some odd reason those that know.. simply do not want to share and those that don’t know.. simply don’t know what they don’t know..

I made a decision to change the tide.. I found out that there are 3 things I have done over and over in order to have success in my Network Marketing business.

I was one of those that didn’t know what I didn’t know.. and I’m not ashamed to say it.  I will say that the minute I realized what I didn’t know..

I didn’t argue about it..

I didn’t try to tell a successful person that my broke tail knew more then them..

I didn’t try to debate the facts..

All I did was shut up and listen..

Have you ever left a conversation with a person that had what you wanted.. and realized that you should of listened more and talked less?

Oh.. I’ve been there several times.. yet once I realized that I simply was running out of time to play around.. everything changed.

There was  a shift in how my mind worked.

I discovered 3 things I had to do.. No Matter what!

I explained them in this video below

As a single mom that is building a Network Marketing business everyday as the way to make money online from home I believe that I can speak to how and why any and every single parent should consider building a home based business at home.

The reality is that not everyone is going to be willing to share with you what it takes to have true success in your business.  Not because they do not want you to have success, yet because they do not know how to do it themselves.

The main reason I am having the success that I am is because of this site you are reading right now.  It’s my land on the internet.

I’ve spent years building this spot up to where you can actually locate it via the search engines.. anybody who makes it seem like you can build your Network Marketing business with a blog in 5 minutes is not telling you the truth.

Yet I will say if you do not have your own space on the internet in order to share your favorite products that you sell in your Network Marketing business then you are missing a very large part of your marketing online.

Considering the fact that if you send everyone to your replicated website.. the company you work for then owns that lead, not you!

In order to avoid your company taking over your leads or shall we say future prospects, you deserve to have your own site.  The best way to set up a site that will rise in the search engines swiftly is to use a viral blogging system.  Basically this is a system where you have a already set up blog that comes with authority.. or search engine juice.  You can see an example of one of mines by Clicking Here.

Once I started blogging for my Network Marketing business everything changed… I still remember that moment when I said.. “I will do this NO MATTER WHAT!”…

Because of blogging I spoke on stage at my company event..

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Because of blogging I was able to work full time in my business when I was laid off December 31, 2012.

Because of blogging I’m able to live a life that I really never thought possible.

Many people find out that I’m a single mom and start making assumptions about who and what I am…

The there is the select few that says.. “Hey.. if she can do it.. so can I” and they lock arms with me and begin to see the success that only comes when you connect with the right people at the right time.

I do not know what you are looking for in your life.

I do not know if you are ready to say.. “I will do this no matter what?”

What I do know is that when you start your blog today.. things WILL change.

I have two options for you..

You can Click Here and take the $9 Trial or you can Click Here and take the $9 Trial!

When it comes to building your network marketing business in a way that last.. the internet is the most secure way.

As you begin your blog and connect with a mentor that knows the exact steps to have success you will enjoy the life of making money online from home in no time.

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The Unauthorized Story Of The Single Moms Club

October 22, 2014 By Shalonda 7 Comments

Is There An Unauthorized Story Of The Single Moms Club?

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Of course there is…

I mean there is always that unauthorized version of something.

As a single mom, I always thought that automatically placed me in the Single Moms Club.

Then Single Moms Club Tyler Perry Trailer came out.. and I realized that I simply did not belong in that particular Single Moms Club.

Why?

Well pretty much in the movie you would figure any single mom should be able to find themselves in at least one of the characters.  Yet I watched and realized that even though a few experiences were similar.. Today, in my life, I really would not fit in.

Mainly because I do not date… at all.

Yep I’m a SINGLE single mom.. and honestly I’m completely cool with it.  I have made a decision to set time aside for God, my kids and my business. Some day I’m sure I’ll get back in the game.. yet I’m not in any kind of rush.

I’m raising two daughters and in this world we live in today.. I simply choose to show them a different way to allowing a Man to be a MAN!! Yet that is another story that I’m sure many will have something to say about! I’ll write it up real soon.. so come back to catch it..

Many tell me, that I’m Single “because”.. and do you realize that none of them ever simply say because “She Choses To Be”.. It amazes me.

Blessed am I.. that I’m surrounded by great friends that understand my truth.. so I don’t have to convince anyone of anything… There are many single parents that actually live a life where the priority is not finding that special one. Considering I’m a lady that’s not my job anyways.. last I checked it is said that “A man that FINDS a wife….” enough of that..smile.

Yet let me just say.. after watching the Single Moms Club, I realized there must be an unauthorized version.  One for those of us that are focused on building an empire while at the same time taking care of our kids.

Notice what I said…

Not build an empire and never see our kids.. NO NO NO…

Build and empire WHILE taking care of our kids.

And that is when that Ah- ha moment came to me..

And the unauthorized story of The Single Moms Club came to be!!

The Single Moms Club That Will Change The Mindset Of Every Single Mom That Wants More!

In order to really change ones mindset they must read and listen to positive audios.  I would put money on it, if I had to bet that reading and audios could literally change the way a person things about situations.

Only because it happened to me.  I mean try it.. Click Here and pick up a free copy of Think And Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. Read it and see for yourself.

Have you ever really wanted more in your life.  

More for you, your family.. ok.. let me just throw it out there.. for all those cats that said you couldn’t have it all.. simply because you have children!

You know the ones I’m talking about.  

See I was in that situation and decided to ignore all the haters and simply lock down and do what it took to have success.

There were days when I felt completely crazy.

There were moments when I felt completely alone.

There were moments when I felt fear of the unknown.

Yet I kept following those that  ACTUALLY had what I desired. Stop following and listening to people that do not have what you want.

See reading and audios helps you press through the moments when the average person looks at you crazy.  

Or when you are alone because you’d rather be alone then hang out with average people.  

Or better yet when you are afraid of what you don’t know, yet you realize that there is a lot you don’t know, and you are not scared all the time. Check out this video about the Unauthorized Single Moms Club

The Single Moms Club Is Accepting New Members Daily!

We are training up Single Moms that own their own Internet Businesses daily.  

What are you waiting for? Is there an investment.. YES.   Yet it’s under $150, so really you can’t lose.

I mean let me put it this way. If you knew there was a chance you could make $25K over the next 12 months working 2-3 hours for 5 days a week.. would you invest $150?

I would.. what am I talking about I did!

Actually went to Jamaica with my family Summer 2014 because I decided to invest in myself.  

I can’t guarantee when you join the club that you will have success, what I can guarantee is that if you do nothing you will continue to get what you currently see.

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So here are your first steps in order to join the Stay At Home Single Moms Club!

Click Here, Place Your Email, And Pay Attention!

Take Action With The FREE for 5 days offer, It may not be around long!

Check Your Email

Schedule Your Coaching Call

Comment Below Saying “I’m Ready”

Keep Smiling,

Shalonda Gordon

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This Exotic Solution For Single Mom Jobs Will Take Your Breathe Away

October 20, 2014 By Shalonda 6 Comments

Why The Search For Single Mom Jobs Is Changing Daily

A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie. ~ Tenneva Jordan

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As we say good bye to 2014 the search for single mom jobs is becoming more and more difficult.

Why? Because there are not as many flexible jobs for single moms out there these days.  See single mom jobs are not your average jobs, as single moms have different kinds of schedules.  Ask me how I know!! lol.

See I actually searched for the best single mom jobs and really came up short.

And stay with me as I tell you why.

How To Determine If You’ve Chosen The Best Single Mom Jobs

I’ve been a single mom for 13 years, going on 14, and honestly I dreaded the J.O.B.  which is why I’m currently a single mom business owner, yet more on that in a second.  I remember having to leave my baby when she was 3 months to go back to a job.  I worked 45-60 hours a week. As I missed what felt like a lifetime with my baby I immediately knew there had to be a way out of this circle of what felt like death to me. The only main issue was that I needed more money, and at the time, did not have a solution to making more money without putting in more time away from my baby.

Maybe you have felt the same way, as you search for single mom jobs you notice that another job will solve the issue of money… maybe!

It’s really all about adding up the numbers. You know that saying that the numbers don’t lie. So let’s run a few numbers.  I’m going to base the numbers on the scenario where a single mom of 2 kids aged 7 and 13 works 40 hours at her first job making $15 per hour.  She then picked up a second job working 20 hours a week making $9 an hour.

Now let’s look at the fact that there are 24 hours a day and 7 days a week.  Which gives us a total of 168 hours a week. Now let’s say the mom gets 6 hours of sleep per night.

(Most single moms know that I’m being nice with the 6 hours of sleep a night yet hey let’s just run the numbers.)

So at this point the mom is working for 60 hours a week, and sleeping for 42 hours which brings us to a total of 102 hours gone.  Leaving the single mom with 66 hours left out of the week. How do the single mom jobs look at this point?

Now let’s subtract the amount of time it takes to cook meals and eat with the kids each day. See this is usually the only real family time a single mom gets in some cases with the kids. That’s 14 hours, leaving the single mom with 52 hours.

Stay with me.. I’m showing you how time can really get away from you, especially as a single mom.

Now with 7 and 13 year old children there tend to be extra-curricular activities like soccer, cheerleading, football, basketball, dance, you pick it.. smile. So let’s give those activities about 6 hours a week (3 hours for each child). (I know I’m being kind again..as my 7 year old has 5 hours of soccer a week alone and that is not even including my other child’s stuff, yet this is just an example) Leaving us with 46 hours left in the week.

Now keep in mind we have to include the commute to get to both jobs. I live in Atlanta and the commute is pretty much going to be, at minimum 30 minutes each direction. So that give us 1 hour commute for the first job and 1 hour for the second job, per day. (Let’s say the single mom only works 5 days a week) So that is 10 hours a week, leaving us with 36 hours.

Ok.. with 36 hours left.. some might say that is cool. Yet this is in single mom world.. and as single moms we are responsible for everything.  Things like cleaning the house, washing clothes, shopping for the house, and .. and .. and.. you name it it has to be done! One of the many reasons a work at home jobs is always preferred.

So when do you get to spend time with your kids???

Ok.. what value do you place on spending time with the kids.  I personally would pay $5000 per minute I spend with my daughters. I love them..I love watching them discover the world around them. I love teaching them BETTER ways to communicate and understand their emotions.

Just this past week because I let go of the search for through the single mom jobs I noticed my oldest daughter was obviously overwhelmed between her honors classes in school, Cheerleading and Choir. I could tell, as she started snapping on her little sister first thing in the morning.  Now my opinion on that is if I wake up with a smile on my face with all I have to handle mentally.. then I know a 13 year old without a concern in the world can wake up with some sort of joy.  See I spend lots of time with my daughter so I could tell when she became overwhelmed.

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I watched her for about 5 days to see how she would handle it.. and I noticed nothing was changing.. she was talking.. or saying the right things, yet her actions did not line up with her words.  So I pulled her aside on Sunday morning in her room.  We talked about her words and her actions.  I asked her questions, and she was stuck.. not knowing how to answer.  I told her to get out her journal…which had to be dusted off.. smile.   I told her it is time for a brain dump.  Take a moment and relax and write down everything on your mind.  Just get it on paper.  I informed her that the journal entry was between her and God.  I prayed over her and left her to write.  When I went to check on her she was already 3 pages in.

Once she was finished she got to work on the school work that needed to be accomplished. She later told me she felt so clear after the brain dump activity. I felt joy.. as I didn’t learn about that until I was grown with kids.. smiling.

When was the last time you were able to really enjoy watching your kids GROW!

Back to our numbers..

So you have 36 hours left at the end of a week, and you made $780 (before taxes) that week.

Now you tell me does it seem fair?

My response was NO.

See the single mom jobs pretty much will take you away from your kids.  It’s like jumping on a merry-go-round that never stops.

Let’s not even forget to mention that when you get a part time job single moms that you are now exchanging time for money.. so basically that $780 was exchanged for the 60 hours of your life that week that you gave away.

The Solution For Single Mom Jobs That Give Back Time And Money

Look.. I’m first going to give you the solution and then I’m going to tell you the first steps.  It’s really up to you how badly you desire that life where you put time into building something that can explode right before your eyes into a lifestyle where you can have all the time in the world. Plus the vacations you will now be able to afford because you put time into something of your own.  Yet let me tell you what I see to be the best part.. when I’m long gone from this world, I am building something that I can leave to my children and grand babies.

So the solution is start your own business. Single moms are doing it every single day and having success.  Yet understand me there are several that are trying and failing every day as well. Trust me when I tell you this is not about going after a get rich quick scheme.  This is about a get rich quick because you now have an understanding of business.

So before we start the solution to the single mom jobs please only continue reading if you have a computer, internet, and $44.95 (to start and grow slow) or $144.95 (to start and grow fast).  YES you will need these three things.. no excuses.. I mean you didn’t have excuses when you jumped on that merry-go-round earlier. This is not a work at home job, it’s a work at home business.. so get ready to enjoy every second.  Oh.. and follow directions.. one thing that causes single moms to fail is when they do not follow directions.. so follow them.. I got you.. smile.

The Steps To Follow In Order!

  1. Click Here Enter Your Email And Take The $7 Risk Free Trial for 7 days.

  2. Clear Your Mind And Prepare To Learn A Few Things.

  3. Take Action And Check Your Email.

  4. Schedule Your Coaching Session With Me

Keep Smiling,

Shalonda Gordon

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The Effective Way To Handle Walmart Layaway Like A Rock Star

October 17, 2014 By Shalonda 5 Comments

Walmart Layaway Is In Full Swing..

I love this time of the year.. The weather starts to get crisp which signifies that it’s time to get ready to start spending some money.

If your life is anything like mines..  with 2 girls.. well quite a bit of money.

See between traveling for Thanksgiving to hang out with friends and family.. to my mother’s birthday.. to my oldest daughters birthday.. and then we can’t forget Christmas.. and POW.. it’s the New Year.. and then My Birthday 10 days later.. (all gifts accepted)!

Considering I’m full time in my business.. I had to change how I did things.. and I created a very concrete way to save lots of money and still make everyone happy during this time of the year.. and my primary source is…. wait for it… wait for it…

Yes.. Walmart Layaway… and it’s already on and poppin!

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Yep.. you are covered to start your Walmart Layaways right now.. as it opened up on September 14, 2014.  Yet don’t shop yet!! I told you I have a concrete plan for you.. And effective plan that will have you looking like a Rock Star on Christmas morning.. smile.

One thing I love about Walmart’s Layaway Plan is that it is FREE to use.. can’t beat that with a stick.

The Walmart Layaway Process That The Professionals Use Is Now Yours!

First simply get all of your list together.. get the kids to get the list to you before November 15, 2014.  Why?  Well you have to have time to price shop.  Yes price shop.. I’ve been able to take proof of cheaper prices to my Walmart Layaway department and get the lower price.. yet that may not matter.. and honestly it only really mattered when I forgot to purchase a certain item on the list.. smile. So continue to pay close attention…

Ok.. so why price check.. the reason why I do it is probably not what you think..

I enjoy seeing all the savings that I’ve received because I PLANNED the process.  How many times have you gone through life without a plan? Ok enough said.. you know how that turns out..

Now the next step is schedule the day that you will place your items on Walmart Layaway! Now realize that you may not like what I’m about to say.. yet if you have prepared well, it does not have to be CRAZY!

The day you will shop is on Black Friday!! Yes, November 28, 2014!! Why?? Because the sales ROCK.. and you will get amazing discounts! Before you ask.. let me just go ahead and answer the question of “Can I do layaway online?’ Well you can not do Walmart Layaway online, so you will want to plan to enjoy all the friendly people out and about on Black Friday.. You can do it.. keep reading and you can even get paid while you shop.. yet you have to keep reading for that info..

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Step By Step Way To Handle Walmart Layaway Like A Rock Star! Follow Each Step And Have Fun!

The Steps!

  1. Gather  the Christmas List Of Items to Purchase
  2. Price the Items From 3 Different Stores – you are looking for the lowest prices (keep proof of these prices)
  3. Prepare to set up your Walmart Layaway on November 28, 2014 – (prepare to put down $10 or 10% whichever is greater)
  4. Shop at Walmart on Black Friday and place all the goodies on Layaway at the great prices – set up Layaway.
  5. Make it a Priority to Pay On The Layaway Every Week. Yes Every Week.  It can be as low as putting $20 on it or place $75, just make it every week.
  6. Relieve yourself of the stress of purchasing everything at full price at the last minute.
  7. Enjoy all the Accolades that you will get for being THAT Rock Star that made it happen.

No worries you don’t have to tell anybody that you read this post.. all you have to do is enjoy the fruits of your labors.

Now I’ve taught this before and the issue became coming up with the funds to pay off the layaway without going into debt.  I’m a big believer that if you have to go into debt to make Christmas fabulous, then your priorities are OFF!! Yes.. I said it, and if you have a problem with it feel free to leave a comment below… you have a right to feel how you feel..

Yet understand that you have options.. and they are not to either go into debt or not do gifts.  Most don’t think about the what would happen if you could earn every single dollar you needed to pay off the Walmart layaway by simply following a simply 3 step system. Remember I told you that it’s possible to get paid while you are shopping.. well, here is how.  Simply Click Here Or Simply Click The Present Below!

Keep Smiling,

Shalonda Gordon

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Confessions Of A Single Mom: The Key To Successful Single Parenting

October 8, 2014 By Shalonda 6 Comments

“Doing the tough things sets winners apart from losers.” ~Stephen Richards

Single Parenting Is Crazy… 

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I woke up this morning feeling tired.. honestly.. felt like taking a nap, even though I just woke up.

Last night I had a moment where I felt stretched… (I never use the word ‘overwhelmed’ as my mentor has banned it) so I  will say stretched.. lol

Yesterday my baby girl stated Girl Scouts. She is so excited about this experience.  As the girls were working on their first badge as Brownies.. the moms were sitting at a table getting to know each other.

We all live in the same area.. yet live different lives.. yet not all that different.  At the end of the day we are parenting.  I knew on of the moms already and she is newly divorced and is now discovering how single parenting can be a little crazy.

While us moms were at the table talking the Troop leader came over and mentioned some areas that she would need help.. one area being that she needed a cookie mom.  Now I was the cookie mom for 3 years for my older daughters troop when she did Girl Scouts.  And honestly I’ve enjoyed the break.  Really had not desire to go back to being about that life at all.. lol..

Yet once I heard the conversation around me.. I realized I would be doing my youngest daughter a disservice if I did not step up.  Yet while stepping up I said, “I’m a single mom, so I will need help”.. It slipped out of my mouth so smoothly.. almost like an excuse.. or something.. follow me now.. it’s getting ready to get real..

The Negative Effects Of Single Parenting Depend On How You Look At It! 

I really didn’t realize what I had said.. until we were walking into the building and one of the other moms asked me how many kids I had.. I told her 2.. my oldest was in the car as I had just picked her up from Cheerleading prior to bringing Chloe to Brownies.  The other mom explained how she had one and that she was a single mom as well.  She paused.. and looked at me..

I could tell she wanted to ask me something.. yet I patiently waited for her to let it out.. I felt like I was about to hear about some single parenting issues, as she was looking at me with a very serious look on her face.  You know that feeling you get when you don’t really know a person and they give you that look.. like they are getting ready to unload.. so you prepare yourself.. shoulders go back a little.. chin raises just a tab… you take a deep breath in.. and then… out.. and…

Finally she says, “How do you find the time to do all of this as a single mom?”

I relax a little.. I know the answer to that one.. lol.. “I’m a stay at home single mom, I make a living on the internet”.  I quickly ask… “What do you do?”

She replies with where she works.. and how many hours she works..and how it is HARD!

At this moment one would think I would go right into how she can be about this life… yet I noticed her body posture, the look in her eyes.. the feeling of confusion.

One thing I know is when single parenting leads to that confused feeling of being stuck and not understanding how to change it.. that offering her “This Life” was not in the cards.. at the moment.  (Key: The hard sale rarely works.. if you have a passion to see a person succeed)

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The Key To Successful Single Parenting

 After looking over a few single parenting articles.. I realized that I can really only tell you the key to successful single parenting.. check it out..

Assignment:

  1. Incorporate this technique into your life.
  2. Write out the Vision you have for your child/children.
  3. Comment on this post with the results of how you are implementing successful single parenting.

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Keep Smiling,

Shalonda Gordon

Successful single parenting is simply once you have the key.

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The Brilliant Stay At Home Single Moms Club Is Changing The Stereotypes of Single Moms

October 5, 2014 By Shalonda 8 Comments

Stay At Home Single Moms Club

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Are you a single mom?

Do you desire to stay at home full time?

Do you desire to allow your work hours to benefit you daily.. vs just the hours you put in at the JOB?

If you answered yes to any of the above questions.. then the Stay At Home Single Moms Club is offering you membership.

First lets talk a little bit about what the Stay At Home Single Moms Club is all about.

Why Create The Stay At Home Single Moms Club

Well, as I watched my oldest child begin to grow up, I realized that time is very precious.

At that very moment I had to evaluate what I was doing with my time.

I mean really look at each hour of each day.

I realized I spent more hours of my life working to building another persons dream, while my life passed me by.

I realized I had to make a change, not only for myself, yet for my daughters.

The decision to create the stay at home single moms club appeared easy as first. Yet, once I started putting the idea together.. I started getting in my own way. For some reason I simply didn’t feel qualified to help other single moms.

Why??

Because God was doing something with my heart. Finally I realized that I have plenty to offer.. because the truth is I only have to offer myself.. and allow God to work through me. Once I became an empty vessel.. the vision of the Stay At Home Single Moms Club exploded. 

I’m a member of a few Single Moms organizations, Project Single Mom being one. I realized while volunteering that single moms really are powerful individuals.. yet many are unaware of their true power.

I could sit here and say it’s hard.  I mean can’t count how many of my friends have said to me.. “I don’t know how you do it Shalonda.” Or “You make it look so easy”

The reality is.. I’ve been a single mom since day one.. so I really don’t know any other way.  This is my reality.  It’s my life.. I was raised by a single mom as well… so it’s pretty much what I know… smile

I could sit here and throw out a lot of stats that are available about single moms and the chances our kids have for success yet instead I’m just going to tell you what has actually happened since I’ve become a stay at home single mom.

Now first let me say this.. there are stay at home mom jobs all around.. yet most of them target the mom that is married staying at home, while there is another person who is providing for the the family.

My goal is to see more single moms at home.. PERIOD!

 

Now I want to tell you that the reason I initially started my own business was because I wanted to hang out with my kids.. yet.. that would be a lie.

girls and I The truth is that I NEEDED.. some child support.  

See I was taking care of my girls SOLO.. financially, mentally, physically, and spiritually.  

And the money coming in was not enough to cover all the expenses..

My daughters have two different fathers, and the oldest’s father had decided to take a vacation on his support.. and I’m not going to go into that here.. yet just know we deal with the feelings that this type of issue causes here in the Club.  

My youngest daughter’s father has never helped support her.. and I knew that would be the case while I was carrying her in my womb.

Regardless of what their fathers do or do not do.. does not change the fact that I have to take care of them.  

So I actually initially began my own business on-line in order to make a few extra $100 per month.  

Really I desired to make $500 per month so that I could supplement my income. I still remember when I actually made enough money to put my youngest in daycare.. I was so excited that I forgot that I didn’t like being in front of the camera and cut this video..

That was May 24, 2010..

Wow.. at that moment I was not yet making enough to quit the job and come home.. yet at that moment I really began to see what was possible.

Look around.. are you enjoying every second of your life?

No seriously.. think about it.. do you love your job.. or is it something you could honestly do without.. Are you alert and and energetic at the kids activities.. or are you tired.. because you gave your best to a job or somebody else?

Better yet are you able to do homework with your kids.. or are you depending on the system to educate them because you have to work and make a living?

See these are the questions that I had to seriously answer.. and no it was not always easy to accept my reality!

Which is why The Stay At Home Single Moms Club is vital.. see you are not alone.. and I know the struggle.. I understand the reality.. and I have the key to that door that you see yet can’t seem to open.

Before I get into what the club can do for you and your family.. look at some of the results I’ve had and why I’m qualified to lead you.. they say a picture is worth a 1000 words.. soooo..

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In 2013 I was able to take the family to Disney World in Orlando and we had a ball..

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We actually wen to Disney in 2010 as well for my daughters 10 birthday.. The Stay At Home Single Moms Club takes your life to an entirely new level.. smile.

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I was able to go to Arizona and climb Camelback mountain.. something I never would have been able to do had I not taken control of my child support situation.

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And this past summer 2014 we went to Jamaica.. yes all because of the Stay At Home Single Moms Club I’m able to now travel the world with my girls.

What can the Stay At Home Single Moms Club do for me and my family?

Really it is up to you! See I’ve learned that I can not make anything happen.. See I’m not God.

What I can do is make sure you have the information necessary to become an actual Stay at home single mom.

Honestly, I really desire to raise up a group of single moms that desire to pull up some more single moms.

I see a future where our kids are thanking the fact that this club existed because they had the opportunity to have their Moms around.

Sometimes we don’t realize how much our kids miss us.. we ignore the fact, when we know it is true, because it hurts too much.

We see certain behavior in our kids, and we know they didn’t get it from us.

We ignore it, because it hurts too much.

Well how about we stop hurting and start taking steps toward becoming the MAIN caregiver of our children.

So you are ready to step into your calling!

Then join my team! You are ready to spend time with your children! Join my team!!

You realize greatness!!

Become intentional and Join My Team!! Join the Stay At Home Single Moms Club and push the movement!

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Keep Smiling,

Shalonda Gordon

P.S. You may want to have a coaching session before getting started.. and that is fine, I understand that as single moms our time is valuable just like our money.. so if you are a single mom, you qualify to have a FREE 20 minute session with me. Click the button and fill out the information to lock in your appointment.  

 

The Stay At Home Single Moms Club desires to see you succeed.

Filed Under: Featured, Single Mom Confessions, Start A Business Tagged With: single mom, single mom jobs, single moms, stay at home mom, stay at home single moms club, work at home single mom

Extremely Effective Ways To Get Financial Help For Single Moms

September 28, 2014 By Shalonda 2 Comments

How To Afford Financial Help For Single Moms!

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Financial Help For Single Moms Comes With A Decision

It’s amazing how much time we spend focusing on all that we think we need as single moms.

Now understand I am a single mom.. I’m not talking about what I think happens…
no I’m talking about what I know is happening.

As I’ve lived it.. and continue to grow through each experience.

See financial help for single moms comes when you as a single mom make a decision that honestly you can create all the finances you need.

Yet there is a process that you will go through.

You may already find yourself going through the process and not even know it.

See so many of us, single moms, are looking for financial help for single moms, that we forget all that we started with prior to becoming single moms.

I don’t know of too many single moms that dreamed of a life of taking care of children alone.

So when we find ourselves in this situation we have to begin the process that I spoke of above.

As you continue to read this information.  I’m going to give you the exact process that you will go through in order to create the financial help for single moms.

Financial Help For Single Moms Requires Completion of The Process

When I had my first child 12 years ago..

I had a job and rarely saw my baby.

Not seeing my baby broke my heart.

I never imagined I would want to spend so much time with another human being until I had a baby.

I begin to see the job as my enemy, so when they terminated from that job when my daughter was 9 months old.

I really had mixed feelings..  to day the least.. that this company would simply fire me knowing my situation.

As I did my job.. and did it well.

Yet I was a hot head at the time, and had an issue with the politics of the office.

Basically I really couldn’t submit to those that were ignorant.. it just didn’t work out.. so they fired me.

I promised myself I would never work for another corporation again.

I ended up moving back to Atlanta and started running my mother’s Mental Health Practice as a contracted employee.

I ran that practice for 11 years.

Through many ups and downs.. I grew.. I hurt.. I failed.. I succeeded.. I failed again.. I had another child.

Now I’m a single mom of two amazing daughters.

There is a process that I had to go through.

There were things that had to change in the way I thought about things.

Yes.. the way I THOUGHT about things.

The Financial Help For Single Moms Process

  1. Forgive Yourself

  2. Think on the things Your Are Grateful About

  3. Forgive Others (ie. Baby Daddy, Family, Friends.. etc)

  4. Begin To Walk By Faith (Give 10% of Gross Income To A Church)

  5. Find Your Mentor (That person living the life you desire.. should be a single mom like you)

  6. Listen To Your Mentor

 

Now some of you are not ready to read this information and understand what I’m saying.

You think it can’t possible be that simple..if it were I wouldn’t need any money.

Yet trust me when I tell you, it may read simple.. yet ain’t nothing simple about forgiving people that you feel have let you down.. especially if that person is the person you see every time you look in the mirror.

Truth be told this works for all people, not just single moms.

Yet I’m coming from the perspective of single moms.

Financial help for single moms is a real thing, and you have the power right in your hands.

See I know because today I’m a stay at home single mom, spending a few hours of my days building a business on the internet.

See financial help for single moms is available right now, in your hands.

Keep Smiling,

Shalonda Gordon

Are you ready to take the steps to gaining Financial Help? The first step is completing your Pre-Qualifying Application for Mentoring.  In order to even Qualify you must be a Single mom. If you are a Single Mom Click The “Yes I Qualify” Button.

Filed Under: Featured, Single Mom Confessions, Start A Business Tagged With: financial help, financial help for single mom, single dad, single mom, single moms

Forbidden Information On How To Collect Child Support Payments

September 27, 2014 By Shalonda 10 Comments

Child support has a bad rap.. the reality is if you take the government out of the situation.. it will still need to be a priority! ~Shalonda Gordon

Child Support Payments Truth Revealed!

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What a serious topic.. at least for those of us that it effects..

From custodial parents to non-custodial parents, we are all effected.

When it comes to child support many immediately go to “The System”.  They basically put all the power in the hands of the government and wait for them to collect their child support payments.  There is this big uproar about how “unfair” it is for the non-custodial parent.  Or It’s an uproar about how the custodial parent uses the funds.. Well for the rest of this article.. I will no longer differentiate between non-custodial parents and custodial parents.. from this point further we are simply PARENTS!

Just so you know my perspective.. yes I’m a parent that keeps the children in my home 99% of the time.  Yes I’m the primary caregiver as well as provider.  I have two daughters with two different fathers. (Feel free to say what you want about me.. it says nothing about my character.. it only speaks to yours.. yet that is a totally different article.)

I remember when I first came into contact with “The System” for child support payments.  It amazed me how much of my life it took away and how it appeared to be such a negative thing.  Like how dare I attempt to hold a parent accountable for their actions.  I felt discouraged, hopeless, and alone.  Now I was not alone.. yet I felt that way.

As a parent, you want the best for your child. Regardless of what happens in relationships between the parents, the child should have the chance to feel the love and support all around them. Yet it seems those child support payments can cause all kind of friction.

See one parent feels like they need more assistance while the other parent feels like they…. Ok.. Ok.. enough of the PC talking.. let’s be real..

Folks are straight HURT..and hurt people… hurt people. And if they can do it by making the money tight.. so be it.

My Story With Child Support Payments Is Common.. Yet How I Dealt With It.. Not So Common

Want to know my story?? Well.. when it comes to child support payments… I only have one to tell.. as my youngest child is in “The System”, yet I take care of her solo.. (All Glory To God that I’m able to)

So my oldest child’s father was giving me around $100 a month.. when my daughter was 9 months to around 1.5 years old. Then he received a better job…. much better. His overhead was no where near mines.. yet he told me.. notice that word.. TOLD me.. we didn’t discuss it, he didn’t inquire as to the needs of the child.. he simply told me that now he would give me $150 a month, while he made $50,000 a year.  I sat there and made a decision.  I decided to allow the government to collect my child support payments for me.  And well lets just say $150 didn’t quite cut it.

Now let me just go a little deeper.. as I know all about the other money that a parent spends outside of child support payments.  You know the clothes, the presence, the activities, the daycare, the school supplies.  Yes there are many many other ways to support a child without giving the other parent money.  Yet that was not my story. I received that amount and all that other stuff that money can be spent on.. well that was my money being spent on those things.

Notice I didn’t state anything about ‘feelings’.  I made the decision to end things.  I decided I could do better alone.  I made decisions that today.. knowing what I know now..

I would have done the EXACT SAME WAY! Yet.. child support payments should have NOTHING to do with how you are feeling.. and if a parent is making decisions based on feelings when it comes to child support.. they are in the WRONG, PERIOD.

Now even though “The System” had the power to collect the child support payments.. there were years when I received nothing at all.  Now this is where it got REAL INTERESTING..

Almost FORBIDDEN…

That kind of secret room in the back of the closet kind of forbidden.

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Now Stop Reading If You Have Drank The Kool-Aid, Walk Around In A Daze Half Of The Time, Thinking You Are In Control Of Your Life Even Though You Do Not Control Your Child Support Payments!

See “they” like it when you keep arguing over things that are out of your control.. For example you have kids..

You are a single parent..

You are struggling to make ends meet…

You allow “them” to collect your child support payments…

You do not receive the payments..  now you have no control over the collection of the funds.. you realize that if the payments come.. they come.. if they don’t they don’t

You get angry with the other parent.  There is this underlining dislike in your voice every time you talk about the other parent.

The child feels all of this.. yet you do not take control back.. you keep playing the blame game.

Now your child grows up and has issues.. because you couldn’t get it together.. all because you GAVE UP CONTROL!

“They” WIN!!

(Take a moment and breathe this in.. do not sit here and ask “who are they”.. does it really matter.. what are YOU doing??)

How To Take Control Of Your Child Support Payments!

There are some specific steps that I had to do in order to break free and TAKE control of my situations.  I mean as a parent we have enough to worry about.. and honestly I didn’t want to think about the other parent every day I noticed that I was not receiving support.  I did not want to spend my life thinking about a person I decided not to be with.. especially when the thoughts were not positive. So I learned a few things.. that I’m going to teach you right here.

Assignment:

1. Click Here And Complete The Form

2. Connect With Me On Facebook Here!

3. Start practicing the steps in the Video Above.

4. Click Here Now that you are READY To Take Control!

Keep Smiling,

Shalonda Gordon

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True Confessions Of A Single Mom’s Celibacy

September 13, 2014 By Shalonda Leave a Comment

A Single Mom’s Celibacy is Not All That Uncommon

It’s funny how whenever I mention living a life of celibacy…

people look at my daughters and then look back at me with that…

“Yeah.. right!”

Look.. you know what I’m talking about.. that look like because I already have children, that I can’t live a life of Celibacy.

Little do they know..

There are several single moms. that understand a Single Mom’s Celibacy.

For those that look at the reality of Single Mom’s Celibacy and say that, “She is the minority”..

Well, I challenge those individuals to look in the mirror.. because if you find yourself surrounded by single moms that do not practice celibacy..

It is more about what you attract then the statements I’m making here today..

single mom's celibacy    A Single Mom’s Celibacy is Valuable

I didn’t quite understand the value of my body as a child.

I grew up in a household where we didn’t talk much about sex..

or about not having sex for that fact..

by the time I found out the value of ones virginity, I had already given it up.

I’m not going to sit here and act like I had any regrets..

I mean you can’t really regret giving up something when you do not know it’s worth.. by the time I realized the worth of what I gave up.. I knew that regret would not bring back my virginity.

What I did know was that I had to teach my daughter something totally different then what I was taught.

Notice I said daughter.. yet I have two daughters.

See I started living a Single Mom’s Celibacy when my oldest daughter was 4 years old.

I learned my worth when I made a decision to answer the call of my Father.

The love I have for my daughter would not allow me to continue moving in ignorance, for I did not want her to live in ignorance.

Regardless of what everyone around me said.. you know..

“If you plan on finding a Daddy for that girl.. you have to give it up”

OR

“No man is going to deal with you not giving them some”.

I mean I was surrounded by ignorance.. Sometimes when you make a decision you have to cut off the ignorance around you.

A Single Mom’s Celibacy Journey is not always perfect.. at least not for me

See two years into my Celibate walk.. my step brother died in a car accident.. when I tell you that thing broke my heart.

Everything I thought I understood became confusing.

I no longer understood how to console my pain.

I no longer understood how I was supposed to walk through this valley and remain in truth with a single moms celibacy.

It simply didn’t make sense.

I reverted back to my old ways.

I reverted back to what I thought I understood.. what I thought I knew.

Praise God that He gave me Life in the mist of my sin, because God could have just as easily gave me death.

Through this pain,  I learned even more about the value of my celibacy.

I begin to realize how mixed up my spirit, emotions, thoughts became when I laid down with he who is not my husband.

I begin to understand the truth about premarital sex that many do not talk about.

I begin to understand the Spiritual side to that thing.

I begin to understand the unspoken code to a Single Mom’s Celibacy.

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There Are Benefits To A Single Mom’s Celibacy

We rarely speak about the benefits of a Single Mom’s Celibacy.. we are really quick to talk about things that we can not have.

Ever notice how easy it is to focus on what you can not have.. yet if you simply focus on the benefits, you will find that what you are giving up is nothing compared to all that you are receiving.

While practicing Celibacy.. realize that you have clarity of mind.

I don’t know about you.. yet I love having the ability to be complete in my mind.

I enjoying being able to tell my thoughts from those of my enemy.

Watch how you value your worth, how much your children will value their worth.

The spirit of lust is not welcome in my home.. it tries to knock and I see it clearly.

My daughters know their worth.. yes there are still many conversations still left to have.. yet as I bring them up in the Word of God.. the Holy Spirit ministers to them daily.

I see the confidence and the value that they hold that I did not hold.

Now for my favorite benefit.. I enjoy spending time in the presence of God, my current husband.

There is nothing between us.

I’m in complete love and I’m completely loved.

See the reason I initially began the walk of A Single Mom’s Celibacy was for my daughter.. yet I eventually began to walk for myself.

I know the day will come when my God allows my husband on earth to find me and present me with an amazing life..

See below the benefit that comes with this amazing life..

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Keep Smiling,
Shalonda Gordon

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Parental Accountability A Luxury Lost!

September 9, 2014 By Shalonda Leave a Comment

Parental Accountability Leads To Obedient Children

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What Do You Mean Parental Accountability Leads To Obedience?

I know.. I know.. as parents we start out with the feeling that we only have to be accountable to ourselves..

our boss..

our God..

yet the truth is we have to be accountable to our children as well.

Raising a child today is totally different then when we were growing up.

Our parents could get away with not having to be accountable to us.

Back in those days most adults were accountable..

and the few that were not..

well they didn’t really stand out.

Yet if you look at the world that we live in today..

you can see that the majority is not exactly what you would want your child mimicking.

Therefore we have to take different approach in how we parent. Parental accountability is a must today.

parental accountability Parental Accountability Takes Humility and Strength

As a parent you know exactly what I’m talking about.

The first time I held myself accountable in front of my daughter, I felt like I was losing my mind.

Literally, I felt like I was wrong for even letting her feel like she had this kind of “Power”.

Yet, as I begin exhibiting parental accountability and explain to her my faults and my strengths, as I begin to explain to her why I did what I did, and why I was wrong.

I noticed a look in her eyes, that I had never seen before.

I noticed her shoulders kind of stand up a little higher.  I noticed a softness in her face, along with a relief.  I asked her what she was thinking.  Her response was:

It is good to know that you mess up sometimes too.  I also love you so much and I know it is okay to mess up sometimes as long as I can  talk about it by telling the truth.  I want to lie sometimes because you seemed so perfect and I didn’t want to disappoint you.

Once I noticed the response and the new found transparency come out of my child.. I knew parental accountability is the way to go.

You really don’t have to believe me.

All you have to do is give it a try.  See for yourself the response you get.

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Deciding against Parental Accountability My Lead To Horrible Circumstances

Circumstances come with every decision.

See some circumstances are good.. and some are bad.. which do you prefer?

I prefer GOOD.. and what I have noticed is that the more parental accountability that I exhibit, the more obedient my children become.

Maybe it’s because they realize that it’s okay to mess up sometimes.

Maybe it’s because they see that unconditional love is given and received by everyone in the house.

Maybe it’s because they simply do not mess up as much because they aren’t constantly thinking about it.. (that is another post all together).

All I know is that as I humble myself.. and leave my pride outside, my children are obedient.

All you have to do is give it a try…

an HONEST try.

Leave a comment sharing your experiences.

Guys we are in a different time.

We have to raise our kids differently then the way we were raised.

We simply do not have the luxury of doing it the ways of the past.

It’s kind of like that saying about old wine skins.

Look around.. the wine they are making today.. isn’t like the wine they made 20 years ago.

Parental accountability is like new wine skins.

Keep Smiling,

Shalonda

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