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The Unauthorized Story Of The Single Moms Club

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Is There An Unauthorized Story Of The Single Moms Club?

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Of course there is…

I mean there is always that unauthorized version of something.

As a single mom, I always thought that automatically placed me in the Single Moms Club.

Then Single Moms Club Tyler Perry Trailer came out.. and I realized that I simply did not belong in that particular Single Moms Club.

Why?

Well pretty much in the movie you would figure any single mom should be able to find themselves in at least one of the characters.  Yet I watched and realized that even though a few experiences were similar.. Today, in my life, I really would not fit in.

Mainly because I do not date… at all.

Yep I’m a SINGLE single mom.. and honestly I’m completely cool with it.  I have made a decision to set time aside for God, my kids and my business. Some day I’m sure I’ll get back in the game.. yet I’m not in any kind of rush.

I’m raising two daughters and in this world we live in today.. I simply choose to show them a different way to allowing a Man to be a MAN!! Yet that is another story that I’m sure many will have something to say about! I’ll write it up real soon.. so come back to catch it..

Many tell me, that I’m Single “because”.. and do you realize that none of them ever simply say because “She Choses To Be”.. It amazes me.

Blessed am I.. that I’m surrounded by great friends that understand my truth.. so I don’t have to convince anyone of anything… There are many single parents that actually live a life where the priority is not finding that special one. Considering I’m a lady that’s not my job anyways.. last I checked it is said that “A man that FINDS a wife….” enough of that..smile.

Yet let me just say.. after watching the Single Moms Club, I realized there must be an unauthorized version.  One for those of us that are focused on building an empire while at the same time taking care of our kids.

Notice what I said…

Not build an empire and never see our kids.. NO NO NO…

Build and empire WHILE taking care of our kids.

And that is when that Ah- ha moment came to me..

And the unauthorized story of The Single Moms Club came to be!!

The Single Moms Club That Will Change The Mindset Of Every Single Mom That Wants More!

In order to really change ones mindset they must read and listen to positive audios.  I would put money on it, if I had to bet that reading and audios could literally change the way a person things about situations.

Only because it happened to me.  I mean try it.. Click Here and pick up a free copy of Think And Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. Read it and see for yourself.

Have you ever really wanted more in your life.  

More for you, your family.. ok.. let me just throw it out there.. for all those cats that said you couldn’t have it all.. simply because you have children!

You know the ones I’m talking about.  

See I was in that situation and decided to ignore all the haters and simply lock down and do what it took to have success.

There were days when I felt completely crazy.

There were moments when I felt completely alone.

There were moments when I felt fear of the unknown.

Yet I kept following those that  ACTUALLY had what I desired. Stop following and listening to people that do not have what you want.

See reading and audios helps you press through the moments when the average person looks at you crazy.  

Or when you are alone because you’d rather be alone then hang out with average people.  

Or better yet when you are afraid of what you don’t know, yet you realize that there is a lot you don’t know, and you are not scared all the time. Check out this video about the Unauthorized Single Moms Club

The Single Moms Club Is Accepting New Members Daily!

We are training up Single Moms that own their own Internet Businesses daily.  

What are you waiting for? Is there an investment.. YES.   Yet it’s under $150, so really you can’t lose.

I mean let me put it this way. If you knew there was a chance you could make $25K over the next 12 months working 2-3 hours for 5 days a week.. would you invest $150?

I would.. what am I talking about I did!

Actually went to Jamaica with my family Summer 2014 because I decided to invest in myself.  

I can’t guarantee when you join the club that you will have success, what I can guarantee is that if you do nothing you will continue to get what you currently see.

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So here are your first steps in order to join the Stay At Home Single Moms Club!

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Shalonda Gordon

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This Exotic Solution For Single Mom Jobs Will Take Your Breathe Away

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Why The Search For Single Mom Jobs Is Changing Daily

A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie. ~ Tenneva Jordan

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As we say good bye to 2014 the search for single mom jobs is becoming more and more difficult.

Why? Because there are not as many flexible jobs for single moms out there these days.  See single mom jobs are not your average jobs, as single moms have different kinds of schedules.  Ask me how I know!! lol.

See I actually searched for the best single mom jobs and really came up short.

And stay with me as I tell you why.

How To Determine If You’ve Chosen The Best Single Mom Jobs

I’ve been a single mom for 13 years, going on 14, and honestly I dreaded the J.O.B.  which is why I’m currently a single mom business owner, yet more on that in a second.  I remember having to leave my baby when she was 3 months to go back to a job.  I worked 45-60 hours a week. As I missed what felt like a lifetime with my baby I immediately knew there had to be a way out of this circle of what felt like death to me. The only main issue was that I needed more money, and at the time, did not have a solution to making more money without putting in more time away from my baby.

Maybe you have felt the same way, as you search for single mom jobs you notice that another job will solve the issue of money… maybe!

It’s really all about adding up the numbers. You know that saying that the numbers don’t lie. So let’s run a few numbers.  I’m going to base the numbers on the scenario where a single mom of 2 kids aged 7 and 13 works 40 hours at her first job making $15 per hour.  She then picked up a second job working 20 hours a week making $9 an hour.

Now let’s look at the fact that there are 24 hours a day and 7 days a week.  Which gives us a total of 168 hours a week. Now let’s say the mom gets 6 hours of sleep per night.

(Most single moms know that I’m being nice with the 6 hours of sleep a night yet hey let’s just run the numbers.)

So at this point the mom is working for 60 hours a week, and sleeping for 42 hours which brings us to a total of 102 hours gone.  Leaving the single mom with 66 hours left out of the week. How do the single mom jobs look at this point?

Now let’s subtract the amount of time it takes to cook meals and eat with the kids each day. See this is usually the only real family time a single mom gets in some cases with the kids. That’s 14 hours, leaving the single mom with 52 hours.

Stay with me.. I’m showing you how time can really get away from you, especially as a single mom.

Now with 7 and 13 year old children there tend to be extra-curricular activities like soccer, cheerleading, football, basketball, dance, you pick it.. smile. So let’s give those activities about 6 hours a week (3 hours for each child). (I know I’m being kind again..as my 7 year old has 5 hours of soccer a week alone and that is not even including my other child’s stuff, yet this is just an example) Leaving us with 46 hours left in the week.

Now keep in mind we have to include the commute to get to both jobs. I live in Atlanta and the commute is pretty much going to be, at minimum 30 minutes each direction. So that give us 1 hour commute for the first job and 1 hour for the second job, per day. (Let’s say the single mom only works 5 days a week) So that is 10 hours a week, leaving us with 36 hours.

Ok.. with 36 hours left.. some might say that is cool. Yet this is in single mom world.. and as single moms we are responsible for everything.  Things like cleaning the house, washing clothes, shopping for the house, and .. and .. and.. you name it it has to be done! One of the many reasons a work at home jobs is always preferred.

So when do you get to spend time with your kids???

Ok.. what value do you place on spending time with the kids.  I personally would pay $5000 per minute I spend with my daughters. I love them..I love watching them discover the world around them. I love teaching them BETTER ways to communicate and understand their emotions.

Just this past week because I let go of the search for through the single mom jobs I noticed my oldest daughter was obviously overwhelmed between her honors classes in school, Cheerleading and Choir. I could tell, as she started snapping on her little sister first thing in the morning.  Now my opinion on that is if I wake up with a smile on my face with all I have to handle mentally.. then I know a 13 year old without a concern in the world can wake up with some sort of joy.  See I spend lots of time with my daughter so I could tell when she became overwhelmed.

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I watched her for about 5 days to see how she would handle it.. and I noticed nothing was changing.. she was talking.. or saying the right things, yet her actions did not line up with her words.  So I pulled her aside on Sunday morning in her room.  We talked about her words and her actions.  I asked her questions, and she was stuck.. not knowing how to answer.  I told her to get out her journal…which had to be dusted off.. smile.   I told her it is time for a brain dump.  Take a moment and relax and write down everything on your mind.  Just get it on paper.  I informed her that the journal entry was between her and God.  I prayed over her and left her to write.  When I went to check on her she was already 3 pages in.

Once she was finished she got to work on the school work that needed to be accomplished. She later told me she felt so clear after the brain dump activity. I felt joy.. as I didn’t learn about that until I was grown with kids.. smiling.

When was the last time you were able to really enjoy watching your kids GROW!

Back to our numbers..

So you have 36 hours left at the end of a week, and you made $780 (before taxes) that week.

Now you tell me does it seem fair?

My response was NO.

See the single mom jobs pretty much will take you away from your kids.  It’s like jumping on a merry-go-round that never stops.

Let’s not even forget to mention that when you get a part time job single moms that you are now exchanging time for money.. so basically that $780 was exchanged for the 60 hours of your life that week that you gave away.

The Solution For Single Mom Jobs That Give Back Time And Money

Look.. I’m first going to give you the solution and then I’m going to tell you the first steps.  It’s really up to you how badly you desire that life where you put time into building something that can explode right before your eyes into a lifestyle where you can have all the time in the world. Plus the vacations you will now be able to afford because you put time into something of your own.  Yet let me tell you what I see to be the best part.. when I’m long gone from this world, I am building something that I can leave to my children and grand babies.

So the solution is start your own business. Single moms are doing it every single day and having success.  Yet understand me there are several that are trying and failing every day as well. Trust me when I tell you this is not about going after a get rich quick scheme.  This is about a get rich quick because you now have an understanding of business.

So before we start the solution to the single mom jobs please only continue reading if you have a computer, internet, and $44.95 (to start and grow slow) or $144.95 (to start and grow fast).  YES you will need these three things.. no excuses.. I mean you didn’t have excuses when you jumped on that merry-go-round earlier. This is not a work at home job, it’s a work at home business.. so get ready to enjoy every second.  Oh.. and follow directions.. one thing that causes single moms to fail is when they do not follow directions.. so follow them.. I got you.. smile.

The Steps To Follow In Order!

  1. Click Here Enter Your Email And Take The $7 Risk Free Trial for 7 days.

  2. Clear Your Mind And Prepare To Learn A Few Things.

  3. Take Action And Check Your Email.

  4. Schedule Your Coaching Session With Me

Keep Smiling,

Shalonda Gordon

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Confessions Of A Single Mom: The Key To Successful Single Parenting

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“Doing the tough things sets winners apart from losers.” ~Stephen Richards

Single Parenting Is Crazy… 

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I woke up this morning feeling tired.. honestly.. felt like taking a nap, even though I just woke up.

Last night I had a moment where I felt stretched… (I never use the word ‘overwhelmed’ as my mentor has banned it) so I  will say stretched.. lol

Yesterday my baby girl stated Girl Scouts. She is so excited about this experience.  As the girls were working on their first badge as Brownies.. the moms were sitting at a table getting to know each other.

We all live in the same area.. yet live different lives.. yet not all that different.  At the end of the day we are parenting.  I knew on of the moms already and she is newly divorced and is now discovering how single parenting can be a little crazy.

While us moms were at the table talking the Troop leader came over and mentioned some areas that she would need help.. one area being that she needed a cookie mom.  Now I was the cookie mom for 3 years for my older daughters troop when she did Girl Scouts.  And honestly I’ve enjoyed the break.  Really had not desire to go back to being about that life at all.. lol..

Yet once I heard the conversation around me.. I realized I would be doing my youngest daughter a disservice if I did not step up.  Yet while stepping up I said, “I’m a single mom, so I will need help”.. It slipped out of my mouth so smoothly.. almost like an excuse.. or something.. follow me now.. it’s getting ready to get real..

The Negative Effects Of Single Parenting Depend On How You Look At It! 

I really didn’t realize what I had said.. until we were walking into the building and one of the other moms asked me how many kids I had.. I told her 2.. my oldest was in the car as I had just picked her up from Cheerleading prior to bringing Chloe to Brownies.  The other mom explained how she had one and that she was a single mom as well.  She paused.. and looked at me..

I could tell she wanted to ask me something.. yet I patiently waited for her to let it out.. I felt like I was about to hear about some single parenting issues, as she was looking at me with a very serious look on her face.  You know that feeling you get when you don’t really know a person and they give you that look.. like they are getting ready to unload.. so you prepare yourself.. shoulders go back a little.. chin raises just a tab… you take a deep breath in.. and then… out.. and…

Finally she says, “How do you find the time to do all of this as a single mom?”

I relax a little.. I know the answer to that one.. lol.. “I’m a stay at home single mom, I make a living on the internet”.  I quickly ask… “What do you do?”

She replies with where she works.. and how many hours she works..and how it is HARD!

At this moment one would think I would go right into how she can be about this life… yet I noticed her body posture, the look in her eyes.. the feeling of confusion.

One thing I know is when single parenting leads to that confused feeling of being stuck and not understanding how to change it.. that offering her “This Life” was not in the cards.. at the moment.  (Key: The hard sale rarely works.. if you have a passion to see a person succeed)

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The Key To Successful Single Parenting

 After looking over a few single parenting articles.. I realized that I can really only tell you the key to successful single parenting.. check it out..

Assignment:

  1. Incorporate this technique into your life.
  2. Write out the Vision you have for your child/children.
  3. Comment on this post with the results of how you are implementing successful single parenting.

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Keep Smiling,

Shalonda Gordon

Successful single parenting is simply once you have the key.

The Brilliant Stay At Home Single Moms Club Is Changing The Stereotypes of Single Moms

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Stay At Home Single Moms Club

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Are you a single mom?

Do you desire to stay at home full time?

Do you desire to allow your work hours to benefit you daily.. vs just the hours you put in at the JOB?

If you answered yes to any of the above questions.. then the Stay At Home Single Moms Club is offering you membership.

First lets talk a little bit about what the Stay At Home Single Moms Club is all about.

Why Create The Stay At Home Single Moms Club

Well, as I watched my oldest child begin to grow up, I realized that time is very precious.

At that very moment I had to evaluate what I was doing with my time.

I mean really look at each hour of each day.

I realized I spent more hours of my life working to building another persons dream, while my life passed me by.

I realized I had to make a change, not only for myself, yet for my daughters.

The decision to create the stay at home single moms club appeared easy as first. Yet, once I started putting the idea together.. I started getting in my own way. For some reason I simply didn’t feel qualified to help other single moms.

Why??

Because God was doing something with my heart. Finally I realized that I have plenty to offer.. because the truth is I only have to offer myself.. and allow God to work through me. Once I became an empty vessel.. the vision of the Stay At Home Single Moms Club exploded. 

I’m a member of a few Single Moms organizations, Project Single Mom being one. I realized while volunteering that single moms really are powerful individuals.. yet many are unaware of their true power.

I could sit here and say it’s hard.  I mean can’t count how many of my friends have said to me.. “I don’t know how you do it Shalonda.” Or “You make it look so easy”

The reality is.. I’ve been a single mom since day one.. so I really don’t know any other way.  This is my reality.  It’s my life.. I was raised by a single mom as well… so it’s pretty much what I know… smile

I could sit here and throw out a lot of stats that are available about single moms and the chances our kids have for success yet instead I’m just going to tell you what has actually happened since I’ve become a stay at home single mom.

Now first let me say this.. there are stay at home mom jobs all around.. yet most of them target the mom that is married staying at home, while there is another person who is providing for the the family.

My goal is to see more single moms at home.. PERIOD!

 

Now I want to tell you that the reason I initially started my own business was because I wanted to hang out with my kids.. yet.. that would be a lie.

girls and I The truth is that I NEEDED.. some child support.  

See I was taking care of my girls SOLO.. financially, mentally, physically, and spiritually.  

And the money coming in was not enough to cover all the expenses..

My daughters have two different fathers, and the oldest’s father had decided to take a vacation on his support.. and I’m not going to go into that here.. yet just know we deal with the feelings that this type of issue causes here in the Club.  

My youngest daughter’s father has never helped support her.. and I knew that would be the case while I was carrying her in my womb.

Regardless of what their fathers do or do not do.. does not change the fact that I have to take care of them.  

So I actually initially began my own business on-line in order to make a few extra $100 per month.  

Really I desired to make $500 per month so that I could supplement my income. I still remember when I actually made enough money to put my youngest in daycare.. I was so excited that I forgot that I didn’t like being in front of the camera and cut this video..

That was May 24, 2010..

Wow.. at that moment I was not yet making enough to quit the job and come home.. yet at that moment I really began to see what was possible.

Look around.. are you enjoying every second of your life?

No seriously.. think about it.. do you love your job.. or is it something you could honestly do without.. Are you alert and and energetic at the kids activities.. or are you tired.. because you gave your best to a job or somebody else?

Better yet are you able to do homework with your kids.. or are you depending on the system to educate them because you have to work and make a living?

See these are the questions that I had to seriously answer.. and no it was not always easy to accept my reality!

Which is why The Stay At Home Single Moms Club is vital.. see you are not alone.. and I know the struggle.. I understand the reality.. and I have the key to that door that you see yet can’t seem to open.

Before I get into what the club can do for you and your family.. look at some of the results I’ve had and why I’m qualified to lead you.. they say a picture is worth a 1000 words.. soooo..

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In 2013 I was able to take the family to Disney World in Orlando and we had a ball..

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We actually wen to Disney in 2010 as well for my daughters 10 birthday.. The Stay At Home Single Moms Club takes your life to an entirely new level.. smile.

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I was able to go to Arizona and climb Camelback mountain.. something I never would have been able to do had I not taken control of my child support situation.

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And this past summer 2014 we went to Jamaica.. yes all because of the Stay At Home Single Moms Club I’m able to now travel the world with my girls.

What can the Stay At Home Single Moms Club do for me and my family?

Really it is up to you! See I’ve learned that I can not make anything happen.. See I’m not God.

What I can do is make sure you have the information necessary to become an actual Stay at home single mom.

Honestly, I really desire to raise up a group of single moms that desire to pull up some more single moms.

I see a future where our kids are thanking the fact that this club existed because they had the opportunity to have their Moms around.

Sometimes we don’t realize how much our kids miss us.. we ignore the fact, when we know it is true, because it hurts too much.

We see certain behavior in our kids, and we know they didn’t get it from us.

We ignore it, because it hurts too much.

Well how about we stop hurting and start taking steps toward becoming the MAIN caregiver of our children.

So you are ready to step into your calling!

Then join my team! You are ready to spend time with your children! Join my team!!

You realize greatness!!

Become intentional and Join My Team!! Join the Stay At Home Single Moms Club and push the movement!

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Keep Smiling,

Shalonda Gordon

P.S. You may want to have a coaching session before getting started.. and that is fine, I understand that as single moms our time is valuable just like our money.. so if you are a single mom, you qualify to have a FREE 20 minute session with me. Click the button and fill out the information to lock in your appointment.  

 

The Stay At Home Single Moms Club desires to see you succeed.

Extremely Effective Ways To Get Financial Help For Single Moms

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How To Afford Financial Help For Single Moms!

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Financial Help For Single Moms Comes With A Decision

It’s amazing how much time we spend focusing on all that we think we need as single moms.

Now understand I am a single mom.. I’m not talking about what I think happens…
no I’m talking about what I know is happening.

As I’ve lived it.. and continue to grow through each experience.

See financial help for single moms comes when you as a single mom make a decision that honestly you can create all the finances you need.

Yet there is a process that you will go through.

You may already find yourself going through the process and not even know it.

See so many of us, single moms, are looking for financial help for single moms, that we forget all that we started with prior to becoming single moms.

I don’t know of too many single moms that dreamed of a life of taking care of children alone.

So when we find ourselves in this situation we have to begin the process that I spoke of above.

As you continue to read this information.  I’m going to give you the exact process that you will go through in order to create the financial help for single moms.

Financial Help For Single Moms Requires Completion of The Process

When I had my first child 12 years ago..

I had a job and rarely saw my baby.

Not seeing my baby broke my heart.

I never imagined I would want to spend so much time with another human being until I had a baby.

I begin to see the job as my enemy, so when they terminated from that job when my daughter was 9 months old.

I really had mixed feelings..  to day the least.. that this company would simply fire me knowing my situation.

As I did my job.. and did it well.

Yet I was a hot head at the time, and had an issue with the politics of the office.

Basically I really couldn’t submit to those that were ignorant.. it just didn’t work out.. so they fired me.

I promised myself I would never work for another corporation again.

I ended up moving back to Atlanta and started running my mother’s Mental Health Practice as a contracted employee.

I ran that practice for 11 years.

Through many ups and downs.. I grew.. I hurt.. I failed.. I succeeded.. I failed again.. I had another child.

Now I’m a single mom of two amazing daughters.

There is a process that I had to go through.

There were things that had to change in the way I thought about things.

Yes.. the way I THOUGHT about things.

The Financial Help For Single Moms Process

  1. Forgive Yourself

  2. Think on the things Your Are Grateful About

  3. Forgive Others (ie. Baby Daddy, Family, Friends.. etc)

  4. Begin To Walk By Faith (Give 10% of Gross Income To A Church)

  5. Find Your Mentor (That person living the life you desire.. should be a single mom like you)

  6. Listen To Your Mentor

 

Now some of you are not ready to read this information and understand what I’m saying.

You think it can’t possible be that simple..if it were I wouldn’t need any money.

Yet trust me when I tell you, it may read simple.. yet ain’t nothing simple about forgiving people that you feel have let you down.. especially if that person is the person you see every time you look in the mirror.

Truth be told this works for all people, not just single moms.

Yet I’m coming from the perspective of single moms.

Financial help for single moms is a real thing, and you have the power right in your hands.

See I know because today I’m a stay at home single mom, spending a few hours of my days building a business on the internet.

See financial help for single moms is available right now, in your hands.

Keep Smiling,

Shalonda Gordon

Are you ready to take the steps to gaining Financial Help? The first step is completing your Pre-Qualifying Application for Mentoring.  In order to even Qualify you must be a Single mom. If you are a Single Mom Click The “Yes I Qualify” Button.

Parental Accountability A Luxury Lost!

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Parental Accountability Leads To Obedient Children

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What Do You Mean Parental Accountability Leads To Obedience?

I know.. I know.. as parents we start out with the feeling that we only have to be accountable to ourselves..

our boss..

our God..

yet the truth is we have to be accountable to our children as well.

Raising a child today is totally different then when we were growing up.

Our parents could get away with not having to be accountable to us.

Back in those days most adults were accountable..

and the few that were not..

well they didn’t really stand out.

Yet if you look at the world that we live in today..

you can see that the majority is not exactly what you would want your child mimicking.

Therefore we have to take different approach in how we parent. Parental accountability is a must today.

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As a parent you know exactly what I’m talking about.

The first time I held myself accountable in front of my daughter, I felt like I was losing my mind.

Literally, I felt like I was wrong for even letting her feel like she had this kind of “Power”.

Yet, as I begin exhibiting parental accountability and explain to her my faults and my strengths, as I begin to explain to her why I did what I did, and why I was wrong.

I noticed a look in her eyes, that I had never seen before.

I noticed her shoulders kind of stand up a little higher.  I noticed a softness in her face, along with a relief.  I asked her what she was thinking.  Her response was:

It is good to know that you mess up sometimes too.  I also love you so much and I know it is okay to mess up sometimes as long as I can  talk about it by telling the truth.  I want to lie sometimes because you seemed so perfect and I didn’t want to disappoint you.

Once I noticed the response and the new found transparency come out of my child.. I knew parental accountability is the way to go.

You really don’t have to believe me.

All you have to do is give it a try.  See for yourself the response you get.

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Deciding against Parental Accountability My Lead To Horrible Circumstances

Circumstances come with every decision.

See some circumstances are good.. and some are bad.. which do you prefer?

I prefer GOOD.. and what I have noticed is that the more parental accountability that I exhibit, the more obedient my children become.

Maybe it’s because they realize that it’s okay to mess up sometimes.

Maybe it’s because they see that unconditional love is given and received by everyone in the house.

Maybe it’s because they simply do not mess up as much because they aren’t constantly thinking about it.. (that is another post all together).

All I know is that as I humble myself.. and leave my pride outside, my children are obedient.

All you have to do is give it a try…

an HONEST try.

Leave a comment sharing your experiences.

Guys we are in a different time.

We have to raise our kids differently then the way we were raised.

We simply do not have the luxury of doing it the ways of the past.

It’s kind of like that saying about old wine skins.

Look around.. the wine they are making today.. isn’t like the wine they made 20 years ago.

Parental accountability is like new wine skins.

Keep Smiling,

Shalonda

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A Single Moms Heart Lesson

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A Single Moms Heart Is Made For

Heart Lesson #2

 

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It’s really interesting how much the single moms heart is created to accomplish heart lesson part 2.

Actually we spend every day of our lives acting out this lesson.

At this point you are probably wondering what I’m talking about.

Well, let ‘s consider what we do every day.

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Single Mom Confessions: Is It Mercy Or Grace

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Single Mom Confessions: Is It Mercy Or Grace?

First I’m just going to be complete REAL with you and show you a picture that represents the outcome of the situation.

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Yes.. this is a lovely picture of my mom, my daughters and myself before we head out to a fabulous dinner in Jamaica this past summer.

Now you probably are not really ready for how all this started..  and why I simply had to confess.  But I’m going to throw it all at you anyways.

See being a single mom was never really the plan for me.. well not as far as my Mom and Dad were concerned.  I was going to be a Physical chemist that worked for Nasa with several degrees.  Maybe get married some day and then have kids.. Being a single mom was simply not in the mix. To say the least it didn’t quite work out that way.  And between you and I.. I’m glad about it..

A Single Mom Living Because Of Mercy!

I went down a crazy path in order to get to that picture above.. one that involved lies, stealing, and murder!! Yes you read it right.. murder! Yeah.. as you read this all the way to the end.. you will discover who died in order to create such joy!

See mercy is that stuff you get when you are wrong.. wrong.. wrong.. just wrong all the time!

Mercy comes a long like a net and catches you so that you don’t bust your head when you fall.  Look as a single mom we have plenty of others quick to point out our faults.. lets be honest about it.. and you may be in a season in your life where you focus more on blaming others for your current situation.. trust me I know the world we live in makes it really easy.. Let me just tell you a quick story.

I literally blamed my mom for everything wrong in my life prior to having my first daughter 13 years ago.

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It was her fault that I didn’t get to go to the college I wanted.. It was her fault that I didn’t have a healthy love life.. It was her fault I didn’t have my dad around.. It was her fault that I didn’t love myself.. It was her fault.. It was her fault.. It was her fault..

Then it was a normal day in December when I became a mom.  I looked at my daughter  and at that moment.. I would love to tell you I had this revelation.. yet I didn’t.. Now it was my mother’s fault that I didn’t know how to be a good mom..

Oh yeah.. I went there..

I couldn’t see my own mistakes.. for NOTHING! (don’t judge my grammer.. just read)

This went on for quite awhile. Now I should let you know I’m an only child and my mother became a single mom when I was 9 years old, once my parents divorced.  And my mother was there for me.. STRONG.. my entire life.. Truth be told she was the only person I could count on in the mist of anything in my life.  She was also the main one that received the wrath of my anger, hurt, misunderstanding and inability to accept responsibility for my actions.

All of these were examples of living under mercy! And if I’m really honest with you.. I didn’t give a crap about it.

At least not at the beginning.. not until I looked at my daughter!

No.. I don’t think you understand.. I really looked at her.. I saw the future I wanted for her.. I saw the joy I wanted her to experience.. I felt the pain that I didn’t want her to experience.. I really saw her.. I loved her.. I loved her more then anything I’d ever loved before her.

Grace Overtook this Single Mom Because of The Same Thing That Gave Mercy

I remember clear as day that moment when I felt my mercy turn to grace.  It was that moment when I actually accepted responsibility. I told you earlier that murder was involved.  Well, it was I murdered myself.  That old Shalonda simply had to go.. That Shalonda that didn’t accept responsibility for anything.. that one that blamed everyone.. that one that couldn’t see the blessings that surrounded her every single day of her life.  That one that would take credit for the good yet blame others for the bad.. That one that acted like somebody owed her something..

Oh.. yes.. that Shalonda DIED!! A bloody death.. and knowing what I know now.. I would kill her again to get here.

See moving in grace as a single mom is a precious thing.. the favor that comes with grace overtakes my children.  It allows me to show them instead of telling them.

Don’t miss what I just said..

It allowed me to show them instead of tell them..

My mother and I are good.. we are real good.. did I have to apologize for a few things..

Ummmm Yes.. WAIT.. let me just tell it how it is.. I’m still apologizing.. lol.. smile

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Single Mom Takeaway:

Recognize the difference between Mercy and Grace in your life.  (As you read.. I’m sure you see the difference)

Below you will find 3 questions to ask yourself.  If you answer yes to all of them.. then your assignment is to share your truth with another Single Mom.  We must help each other.. because we understand what we go through.

The Questions:

  1.  I accept responsibility for ALL my actions!
  2. If I watch my child acting JUST LIKE ME on a daily basis, I would not worry about them AT ALL!
  3. I can list 50 things I am grateful for right now!

If you answered NO to any of these questions.. then you may be operating in mercy.  If the questions make you feel some kind of way.. you may be operating in mercy.  And guess what that is OK.. we all start some place.  There are days when I’m operating in mercy and I know it.

Assignment (If you are bold enough to accepted it.. most are too scared to do this assignment.. are you scared?? )

Leave a comment giving one example of when you’ve experienced mercy and one example of when you experienced grace!

Keep Smiling,

Shalonda Gordon

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